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How to stop your self destructive mind
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Why do we do things we know are bad for us?
In the self destructive mindset we are seeking to escape pain.
Emotional pain that we don’t want to face at that particular moment…
The pain of that moment could be brought about by any number of things…
Self-hatred, an abusive relationship, not coping in our lives and so-on. In that moment we seek a temporary fix, a drug, food, sex, whatever our particular fix, to make us feel good again…
But like the proverbial sinking ship, this self destructive action puts another hole in the hull. It’s a “catch 22″ situation. You can’t stand the pain of now and you don’t want to self destruct.
It’s important we don’t blame ourselves.
It’s not your fault
Life can be tough sometimes and there may be things you’re not aware of that are affecting you. For example, food intolerances and vitamin or mineral deficiencies can cause a lot of suffering. Undiagnosed illness are extremely common so if you’re not coping, it’s not really your fault.
Another factor could be early childhood trauma that has conditioned you in such a way as to guarantee you have a difficult life. Don’t take it personally. It’s not your fault. Don’t make an ego out of your life.
Zinc deficiency is strongly linked with anorexia. Once you take away an essential need of the body like zinc, all sorts of nasty things can happen. So don’t blame yourself but do commit to finding a way through, back to natural health — where you feel so good that you don’t need a fix to cope.
State of well-being
We are looking here to create a state of well being so that life flows easily. I was a zombie for 13 years with CFS/ME, so I know what pain is — believe me. Physical, emotional and mental HELL. It’s impossible for me, sitting here writing this to know your exact life situation but I truly know this…
When you have a body and mind that is working well you cope much better with anything life throws at you.
It may be that you feel trapped in your life. I know that feeling too…
There are things you can do to stop self-destructing. If your life feels like one big mess, know that it won’t last forever. Decide that you will take the steps you need to. And slowly, slowly things will start to improve, until finally you are happy again.
The first step is the hardest, so please click here for how to approach it.
All the best,
Mike Kinnaird
Habit Guide: How to be Happy & Healthy
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Flipping nora Mike im so glad you got the urge to write this this morning… Ive been on a rollercoaster for the past two weeks and this weekend I think I even fell off at the top!
Oh I feel wonderful, I woke at 6 bright and smiley with no bags under my eyes (hmmm sort of, nearly)!
Maybe I should sprinkle a little bit of history of myself on this page before I am considered a complete impulsive looney.
I was a heavy smoker, drinker and body abuser until two weeks ago when I walked into Tesco and decided there and then to do a COMPLETELY different kind of shop that in itself left me gobsmacked, where on earth did that come from?? who twisted my arm and screamed down my ear? the answer was nobody.. IT WAS ME! , I have been able to cut my smoking down to a mere 4 in the two weeks rather than 20 big ones a day, I have had a beer at MIkes and half a bottle of wine during last weekend.
Anyone who knows me would realise what a radical change it is for me to do anything as so,, I would like to take you with me in this very very difficult journey of change, I am going through sensations of euphoria, guilt, anger, frustration all mixed up in big brass pot with a massive spoon which is turned frequently during just one day!
I have so much to say and share but I now have to get on the fast train of chores for the morning with two children still in bed and a school to get to! (this is when I would love a cig).
Hi Melanie. Just to wish you the best of luck – keep us posted on here. Sounds like you made a fantastic start, especially cutting down the cigarettes so quickly – that’s brilliant!
~ James
I am 16 years old and I can’t stop doing things to hurt myself. I cut, have sex, do drugs, drink alcohol, eat a lot of food, starve myself somedays and run away. It seems almost controllable and has me wondering, why do I do these things?
Hi Kennedy,
We hurt ourselves because we want to FEEEELLL GOOOOD. And so if for whatever reason we don’t feel good, we go do something that we know will feel good. The urge can be incredibly strong. But these temporary solutions — you covered most of them there in your comment, make us feel even worse after only a little while. And so we go into a self-destruct downward spiral and the further down we go, the harder it is to turn it all around.
What you want is to feel good and the so the best way to do that is a NATURAL HIGH that comes from living right and thinking right. Then you get to feel amazing all the time. Please read Habit Guide, it takes only an hour or so to read and then you will KNOW without any doubt whatsoever, the right path you need to take. After you’ve read it, you can get back to me if you have any questions if you like.
Mike
love it !!! very interesting . thanks so much for your attention for all all the best !!!